Oh. My. God.

Good morning sistas,

I am in need of support today.  I've been waiting for the next installment of the Christie Crises and it arrived last night.  Christie came in and announced that she is 37 weeks pregnant and due on Sept 22nd. 

Now, before you think all the obvious thoughts, let me just say that for weeks, I've suspected that she is pregnant.  I told Butch and Carrie that I thought she was pregnant.  They both said "no", that she was just overweight again.  They both said "no", that she was still smoking like a chimney.  They both said "no", that she would tell us if she was pregnant.  To which I replied, "Yes, but only if she is not in denial."  NOBODY can be in denial better than Christie.

So she's been going around here wearing slouchy sloppy tee shirts and acting like everything is normal.  I know, I know, I should have asked her outright.  If you have never lived with a volatile bi-polar person, you can't know what it's like to "wake the dragon", so to speak.  I'm a coward with good reason.  I kept saying, "But I have to live with her.  YOU ask." 

Anyway, she went to see a doctor FOR THE FIRST TIME yesterday.  Yep, that's right.  NO pre-natal care at all.  She's already scheduled for a C-section on Sept 19th unless she goes into labor beforehand.  Butch leaves for Saudi on Sept 15th.  I am reeling.

Well, that is all I can tell right now.  I don't have a lot more information.  The father is the guy she's been dating from Hobby Lobby.  His name is Mike.  They went to Wal Mart last night and bought some newborn diapers and things together.  Whoop.  I've met him a couple of times and I wasn't impressed.  Don't have any idea what to expect from that corner.

Please pray for me and my family, if you're so inclined.  We sure could use it.  Butch will be home this afternoon.  I have no idea what will happen next, but I'll keep y'all posted.

 

 

Oh my goodness Vickie....you had to have been in shock!! A baby is a blessing and I know you will love it. It just shouldn't have been kept from you. Butch will be more then surprised...WOW!

No prenatal care and smoking....she knows better then that!! That was very uncaring on her part....and his!!

I will be saying extra prayer for all of you!! Please call me if you want to talk 

320 291 4979....anytime!! PRAYERS!!!!!

Love you much....hugs and more hugs......connie d

Vickie,

I send my good wishes and prayers to you and all those affected by this latest news. . .  I know well what you talk about when you speak of waking the dragon, my 2nd husband was an untreated bi-polar, he was diagnosed 18 months after our vows, and let me tell you, I lived through hell with that man, he refused medication and I never knew what I was walking into; it's too long a story to go into, just let's say that the best day of my life with him came when I moved from NY to NJ, where he did not know my address.  I now have limited contact with him, via the telephone, since I have the same cell number since 2000, he finally went on meds, he reaches out every now and again to see how I am and he has apologized over and over again for how he mistreated me during our years together. . .

I hope the baby will be a blessing and I'm a firm believer of trust your instincts. . .

Hope you have a good day, in spite of the fact that you are reeling with this new bit of news. . .

Everyone else have a good day!

Hugs, Laureen

Oh Vickie, so sorry to hear this. I thought maybe she was on the right path at last, but obviously we were all wrong. I hope this baby will be all right despite the fact she has been smoking and hasn't had any prenatal care. 

I don't know what you can do for her, other than try to support her and the baby. I wish you could do more, such as get a protective order for the child, but I think that might make things worse. You're in my thoughts. If my arm didn't hurt so much from my fall this morning, I'd be swinging chickens for you.

Eileen, I am sorry to hear you fell this morning.  Sure hope your pain from the fall goes away soon.

Take care.

 

Cindy P.

OH MY!

I'm speechless! Well congrats grandma!  I believe that every thing happens for a reason and that God has a plan! Hang in there and hopefully this will be a true blessing for the family. Prayers are on there way! If for any reason you need to talk please call me! 925-420-6867

Hugs, Debbie

Oh Vicki,

I have a cousin that is Bipolar . I didnt know how to deal with it. I still dont. She uses people to her advantage then throws them away! 

So we are going to be Grandmas at the same time! 

Hang in there my thought are with u! Call me 3037261802 Carla

Thank you sweet sistas!

Yes, I know a baby is a blessing from God.  That's what I told myself when she was pregnant with Benny, and I will tell myself the same thing again this time around.  I also believe that things happen for a reason and that God is in control.  But I am still in shock and having a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that in less than 3 weeks, I'm going to have another grandbaby.

Chris and I were able to talk a little about things this morning.  So much to think about and do to prepare for this baby's arrival.  I haven't reached the point where I can be excited about it yet.  I'm still trying to figure out how to squeeze another nursery out of this house.  All the baby stuff is in storage, but what is where and what did we keep and what do we need to buy??? 

I will be better when Butch gets home this evening, and then he and I can talk about things together.  Of course, he is going to be gone before the baby is born, and that means I will be here alone with Benny and Chris and the new baby for a whole month.  It's going to be tough.  I have to get my head on straight before that happens.

Right now the only thing I want to do is a) eat an entire pan of brownies, or b) take a knock-out pill and sleep the rest of the day.  Neither choice is a good one, but the damn brownies do beckon.

Bi-polar disorder is a real ***** and it certainly does wreak havoc on our lives.  Nobody ever believes me when I say that Christie is crazy, but OMG, she is.  My poor child is just not normal and never will be.  If anyone ever needed NOT to have children, it's Chris, and yet here we are. I moved down here to protect and raise Benny, and now it seems I will have to protect and raise one more precious baby.  I am already talking to her about having her tubes tied.  Enough is enough.

I appreciate your love and support and friendship more than I can say.  If I get desperate, I will call someone to talk.  For now, I just need to sit quietly and try to absorb it all. 

 

Oh, Vickie, I am so sorry to hear this news. I know you will love this baby but I also know how much you were looking forward to traveling in your RV with Butch. 

Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate through this new challenge.

 

Cindy P.

OMG is right....seems to me you too were in denial though you suspected it, ditto for Butch and Carrie. Just when Benny is off to school and there is some peace and quiet and normalcy back in your life, now this.....your life is in turmoil again!

Oh Boy, you poor poor Granny! Aren't you glad you had WLS so as to be able to deal with all this. My heart goes out to you, for all the extra work you will have just when you were looking forward to full retirement with Butch at end of year.

Baby will be ok as my mother was of the generation that smoked and drank gintonics during pregnancy as no one knew it was bad for baby! On the other hand she did have prenatal care, or whatever it was in those days...(not like now for sure! As long as there was a heartbeat in your tummy you were deemed ok and baby healthy!)

Chin up,you can deal with this....
Hugs
Jennifer